Why does great sex so often fade for couples who claim to love each other as much as ever? Can we want what we already have? Why does the transition to parenthood so often spell erotic disaster? Does good intimacy always make for good sex? Ether Perel takes on these tough questions, grappling with the obstacles and anxieties that arise when our quest for secure love conflicts with our pursuit of passion. She invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home. In her twenty years of clinical experience, Perel has treated hundreds of couples whose home lives are empty of passion. They describe relationships that are open and loving, yet sexually dull. What is going on? In this explosively original book, Perel explains that our cultural penchant for equality, togetherness, and absolute candor is antithetical to erotic desire for both men and women. Sexual excitement doesn't always play by the rules of good citizenship. It is politically incorrect. It thrives on power plays, unfair advantages, and the space between self and other. More exciting, playful, even poetic sex is possible, but first we must kick egalitarian ideals and emotional housekeeping out of our bedrooms. While Mating in Captivity shows why the domestic realm can feel like a cage, Perel's take on bedroom dynamics promises to liberate, enchant, and provoke. Flinging the doors open on erotic life and domesticity, she invites us to put the "X" back in sex.

为什么伟大的性爱对于那些声称一如既往地爱着对方的夫妻来说常常会消逝？我们能不能想要我们已经拥有的东西？为什么向父母身份的过渡往往意味着性爱的灾难？好的亲密关系是否总是能带来好的性爱？以太-佩雷尔对这些棘手的问题进行了研究，努力解决当我们对安全的爱的追求与我们对激情的追求发生冲突时出现的障碍和焦虑。她邀请我们探索家务和性欲的矛盾结合，并解释如何才能把欲望带回家。在她20年的临床经验中，佩雷尔已经治疗了数百对家庭生活缺乏激情的夫妇。他们描述的关系是开放的、有爱的，但性生活却很乏味。这到底是怎么回事？在这本爆炸性的原创书中，佩雷尔解释说，我们对平等、团结和绝对坦诚的文化偏好与男女的性欲是背道而驰的。性兴奋并不总是按照良好公民的规则进行。它在政治上是不正确的。它在权力游戏、不公平的优势以及自我和他人之间的空间上茁壮成长。更刺激、更好玩、甚至更有诗意的性爱是可能的，但首先我们必须把平等主义的理想和情感的管家赶出我们的卧室。虽然《囚禁中的交配》展示了为什么家庭领域会让人感觉像一个笼子，但佩雷尔对卧室动态的看法有望解放、迷惑和挑衅。她打开了情欲生活和家庭生活的大门，邀请我们将 "X "放回性生活中。